Asalam-o-Alaikum: I am facing severe anxiety and depression these days. My problem is that during regular religious discussion with my wife I was telling her that a lot of people say that non-muslims in western countries can become much better muslim then us only if they recite Kalma. I was telling her that one should not say it because they don’t accept core Islamic concept i.e. “There is no god but Allah, and Muhammad is the messenger of Allah.” During discussion I gave her following example: “Lets suppose there is one father and son. The son refuses to acknowledge his father i.e. he is saying: you are not my father and I don’t believe in it that you are my father but I will be good to you – but you are not my father.” Then I said: “now will the father care about his son’s rest of acts when he is openly denying that he is his father”. No I am worried that I have done Kufr by giving an example of human being while discussing mater of Allah. I did not intend to compare Allah to His creation. But as soon as I finished talking I become worried that I have done Kufr and because of that my marriage is now also void. Can you please guide me? I have already repent so many times. If I indeed have done Kufr then what is ruling regarding it and marrying again. Kashif
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His Slave and Messenger.
Examples are given to bring the meaning closer to people's minds. They do not necessarily indicate similarity in all aspects. If someone gives an example from the real life of the creatures to bring a matter related to the Creator closer to minds, then this does not mean that it indicates drawing a similarity between the Creator and the creatures. The Quran includes some such examples:
Ibn Abi Shaybah reported that Mujaahid said regarding the saying of Allaah The Almighty (which means): {Allaah presents an example: a slave [who is] owned and unable to do a thing and he to whom We have provided from Us good provision, so he spends from it secretly and publicly. Can they be equal? Praise to Allaah! But most of them do not know. And Allaah presents an example of two men, one of them dumb and unable to do a thing, while he is a burden to his guardian. Wherever he directs him, he brings no good. Is he equal to one who commands justice, while he is on a straight path?} [Quran 16: 75-76], "All this is an example given of the idol and the True God."
Qataadah also said regarding the saying of Allaah The Almighty (which means): “One of them dumb”, “It means the idol.” As for the saying of Allaah The Almighty (which means): “Is he equal to one who commands justice”, he said: “It means Allaah.” ['Abdur-Razzaaq]
Thus, the matter is not problematic at all. Hence, you are still Muslim and your wife is still in marriage with you. Do not worry and forget about those evil thoughts, and think about what can be beneficial for you in your religion and worldly life.
For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 5398.
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