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Fatwa CenterHer husband is nice but does not care enough about sex
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I am maried since 8 years, my husband is very nice, understanding, no demanding, he cares about me and his kids, he is very patient, but I have just a problem that he always busy by his work, emotionnaly he is so nice, but he does not give enough time to our private sexual life, we do get it sometime once every 15 days, do you think the fact that he is so busy is a reason to do not care about sexual relationship, he always says I am tired, I need to sleep early to be able to wake up for salet el Fadjr, actually Elhamdoullilah he is good muslim, he prays, he is serious with his religion, but when he is always busy makes me having some douts that he has some body else in his life, I do not want to acuse him because I know that he loves us but every time tired, not really excited for the sexual life make me worried a lot. Do you think having a sex once every 15 days is normal for someone who is busy in his work????
I want also to let you know that he had heart problem ( heart attack) 6 years ago but el hamdoullilah he is feeling well now we had a cut kids after that, do you think that related to his health condition he gets tired and can not have the sex regularly like normal people???
Please help me because I do love my husband and my family, and I do not want to accuse him that he has somebody else in his life. Thanks in advance
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
Since Allaah blessed you with a man who has these good qualities which you mentioned about him, then this is a great bounty for which you should be grateful to Allaah with your heart, tongue and limbs. Indeed, there are many other women who are married to men who have bad moral conduct and their life with them is miserable. Therefore, remembering such a bounty may comfort your heart and help you be patient over what you may dislike about your husband.
As regards sexual intercourse, then the most preponderant opinion of the scholars 
is that this depends on the desire of the wife and the ability of the husband and it is not specified by a given period of time. We think that you may agree with your husband about this matter and he should understand your need and satisfy your desires and he should endeavour to achieve this for you. On the other hand, you should understand his situation as there might be something which prevents him from having sexual intercourse sometimes due to his health condition and the like. For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 87619 and 89569.
However, it is not permissible for you to accuse your husband of being married to another wife without evidence. For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 89109.
Allaah Knows best.
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