Wants to know her husband's financial affairs
26-4-2005 | IslamWeb
Question:
I want to ask about my husband he give me everything I want but I did not know anything about his salary and how much he have money nothing like this he didn't tell me when I ask him he say the women must not now everything about her husband he think like this and this didn't mean he didn't trust me he say no he trust me a lost but he think like this and he say this is my life I will not change. If he travel to any country he give me money if I want more he say ask my mother she will give me but I didn't like this he say he didn't trust me to have a lot of money I didn't have control of money. We always talk about this and always the same answer. Please answer me.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
Marital life should be established on mutual understanding between the spouses and mutual trust. Both of the spouses should avoid what could break up their relationship. Indeed, one of the most important objectives of the Islamic Law in legislating marriage is the stability of marital life. Allaah says (which means): {And among His signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them and He has put between you affection and mercy.}[Quran 30:21].
The husband is obliged to spend on his wife and provide her with the necessities of life, like shelter, clothing, food and so forth. Therefore, if he does so, he has fulfilled his duty as regards provision. If he further provides for her according to his capacity without being extravagant then that is something good and more likely to achieve the objectives of good marital relationship.
As regards a husband informing his wife about his salary or about the amount of money he possesses and the like, then this differs according to the situation of the wife and the circumstances that surround the spouses. This matter could be a good thing for one wife and not good for another wife. However, since your husband does not want to tell you about his salary and the amount of money he has, then you should not investigate this matter especially that you have mentioned that he is providing you with everything you want. We advise you to follow this Prophetic rule: "A sign of excellence of one's faith is that he stays away from that which does not concern him." [Ahmad]. Discussing the salary and money should not be a reason for dispute between you and your husband, as that could lead to unpleasant consequences.
Finally, if you feel embarrassed to ask his mother for some money in his absence then you have to talk to him frankly on this in a good manner.
Allaah knows best.