Wants to marry a Hindu girl
31-8-2004 | IslamWeb
Question:
I am loving a Hindu girl. I thought to marry her. But after coming to Qatar, one learned person told me that Islaam did not permit to marry her just by converting her to Islaam. The reason he told for this is her intention to convert to Islaam is to marry you and not because the real message what Islaam say (La Ilaaha Illallaah Muhammad Rasoolullaah). He told me quoting version from chapter Mumtahinah. Does this same in my case? Now I intended to teach her in a correspondence teaching about Islaam. I have already sent her address to one organization that is conducting correspondence teaching about Islaam.
My mother and father will not agree for this marriage. Is that compulsory that I should get permission from my parents for my marriage? I really care and respect them in all manners according to the saying of Allah and Rasoolullaah, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam.
Some times I think to marry her as my second marriage as first one I have to marry according to my parents wish. I sincerely awaiting a reply for this as this thought making me some times more disturbed.
If you ask me why I love her. I have no serious reason to say, may be only I have attracted to her during my ignorant time (I mean I was not much serious about religious matters. Alhamdulillaah now I have improved much on this, but thought about our past days is disturbing me very much. I tried to forget her but more I m attracted to her. We have done everything except Zina. Once I dropped the thought of marrying her and was preparing to marry a Muslimah. But recently I received a letter from her saying I have spoiled her life. This made me to re think and I called her and discussed about Islaam.
When I really aware about Day of Judgment I sincerely wish her to give guidance about the truth. I already discussed with her. She also says it is good to have a belief like this and she thinks All-Mighty has given her a chance to think about the truth. But she is just 19 and if she accept the truth now, she will make insult to her parents (her father is working in government sector) and family. (She has 2 elder sisters. One sister’s marriage Insha Allah, will be fixed shortly and if she accepts the truth public her another sister’s marriage and all will be in trouble). I call her most days from here to India. I know this is not permitted in Islaam. But when I think it is for her Hidayath (guidance) I call her. But when started to talk’ sometimes I cross the limit also. What I will do in this situation. I don’t want her to send to Jahannam. At least I need a mental relief that I have tried my best to bring her to truth. I read some fatwa similar to this but that is not giving me a sufficient answer. If she embraces Islaam, can I marry her on already mentioned reasons above?
There are still more to be written but as this itself is too long I stop here. But please give me a reply on this matter. Tonight (august 1st) Insha Allah, one of my friend is going to India. I am sending her some books (about Islaam) through him so that he can courier it to her.
May Allah receive all your efforts as good ‘amal and May Him give you reward from his Rahmath and Barakath. Aaameen
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
It is not allowed for a Muslim man who wants to get married to a reverted Muslim woman to examine her faith. The verse of chapter Al-Mumtahinah was revealed concerning those married women who migrated to the
They were examined to know whether they migrated due to their interest in Islam or due to their hatred toward their husbands. The details on this subject are thoroughly discussed in the books that explain the Qur'aan such as Tafseer Al-Qurtubi 
and the like.
As regards, the Hindu woman, if she sincerely accepts Islam, adheres to its rulings, like prayers, fasting and Hijab (i.e. Islamic attire for women), and she is serious about Islam, then you are allowed to marry her. However, you have to have the approval of your parents. Try your best to convince them to accept this woman as your wife. If they are not pleased with this woman, then leave her. There are many other women who are probably better than this woman. The basis for this is that obedience of the parents is an obligation and their right has more priority than other people, while getting married to a certain woman is not compulsory.
No doubt, whenever there is a conflict between that which is compulsory and optional matters, that which is compulsory has preference over other optional matter.
Allaah knows best.