Wants to Marry A Girl He Does Not Know Well
13-10-2003 | IslamWeb
Question:
There is a girl whom I do know. I have only seen her a couple of times she is beautiful and also looks religious she covers herself when she goes out the thing is I do not know her and she does not know me nor does my family know her family in anyway but I would want to propose marriage to her she quiet older than me but I would like to propose marriage to her. Could you tell me the best way of going around this according to the Qur'an and Sunnah and is there any Du'a or any religious ritual which helps in these matters.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
Before proposing to this girl, we advise to do two things:
Firstly, perform Istikhaarah prayer about this matter. Pray two supererogatory Rak'ahs then make Du'a to Allah to bestow the right guidance upon you. The Istikhaarah supplication is: “O Allah, I consult You as You are All-Knowing and I appeal to You to give me power as You are Omnipotent, I ask You for Your great favor, for You have power and I do not, and You know all of the hidden matters. O Allah! If you know that this matter (then he should mention it) is good for me in my religion, my livelihood, and for my life in the Hereafter, (or he said: 'for my present and future life,') then make it (easy) for me. And if you know that this matter is not good for me in my religion, my livelihood and my life in the Hereafter, (or he said: ‘for my present and future life,’) then keep it away from me and take me away from it and choose what is good for me wherever it is and please me with it.”
Secondly, seek the advice of pious, knowledgeable persons who know such girl. Having done the above, if you feel like marrying her, propose that to her Wali (guardian). You have the right to look at her face and talk to her in the presence of her Wali or some other trustworthy Mahaarim or someone whose presence makes seclusion ineffective. On the other hand, there are no special religious things one should do when proposing to marry.
For more benefit on how to perform Istikhaarah prayer and how to supplicate Allah, please refer to Fataawa 172573, 81434, and 82964.
Allah knows best.