Refuting Some Misconceptions
10-4-2002 | IslamWeb
Question:
I don't mean to sound like a disbeliever, but scholars always speak of the reward for men in heaven how they will have “Hour al-'Een”. How can a man can keep more than one wife? What's in it for women? I believe Allah to be a Just and Fair God. I just want to understand. If there are any books you recommend I would be grateful. I need to learn more because I feel that the way Islam is preached nowadays is undeserving to God. There are so many misconceptions and preachings that make you want to turn away from Islam. Allah is a kind God, Tender and Gentle with His worshippers. Where is all this meanness and bad presentations coming from?
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
One has to believe that Allah, The Great and Almighty, is Just, Most Generous, Most Compassionate, Wise and All-Knowing. He does what He likes and chooses; no one has the right to review or rebut His Orders. So, He, in His Wisdom, has chosen that a man can marry four women, not the opposite. Here, only those who have faith and insight can recognize the wisdom behind such a ruling.
He has decreed that a believer can take delight in a number of al-Hour al-'Een (dark-eyed damsels), while a believing woman only loves her husband and wants nobody but him.
Allah Says (what means): {And with them will be women limiting [their] glances, with large, [beautiful] eyes.} [Quran 37:48]
You have to know that there are no unmarried people in Paradise. A woman who was spinster or her husband was not from the people of Paradise will be given a husband and rewarded with Divine blessings and bliss that no human being can imagine.
In addition, know that there is no similarity between the matters of this worldly life and those of the Hereafter.
In other words, a woman may wish to have more than one husband in this world, but she will not have such a desire in the Hereafter; i.e. in Paradise, since her delight lies in having only one husband, without wishing a substitute.
This, in fact, shows the comprehensiveness of the Divine wisdom; Allah’s Ability and Kindness.
Thus, a Muslim is advised to seek from this present life what leads him/her to Paradise. In simple words, he/she does not have to be engaged with such matters (discussed in this Fatwa) that cannot be changed.
If Allah honors him/her with entering Paradise, he/she will see what no eyes have ever seen, hear what no ears have ever heard of and what no one can imagine.
We ask Allah to make us and you from the people of His Paradise and Favor.
Allah knows best.