Repent from Zina and Don’t Marry That Man

26-3-2002 | IslamWeb

Question:

I am a Muslim woman, previously divorced. I am trying to be a good Muslim and follow all the rules but am not very good. I am not doing all I want to do but believe I am a good Muslim at heart. I am now in a very difficult situation where I have sinned with a man, regret it greatly and trying very hard to repent for it. This man is now proposing to marry me. I am not very sure he is the right man for me; he is not a very good Muslim, (does not pray and drinks alcohol). He pushed me very hard into sin before in the name of love. I am also not sure he will protect me and take care of me as a good Muslim husband. Would marrying him help forgive my sin or make it less wrong even with his current morals and personally? Or is the damage already done, and the best way I have is to live truely for the rest of my life and try to repent for this sin without getting into a relationship that will make me more miserable. Please help me as I am very confused and don't know what to do. I did Istikhara prayer but still not sure how to choose the right thing that gets me close to God and forgives my sins.
Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

Know that you have to sincerely repent of your bad deed. Then, Allah - The Great and Almighty - will accept your true repentance.

Allah Says (what means): {And He it is Who accepts repentance from His slaves, and forgives sins, and He knows what you do.} [Quran 42:25]

You have to keep away from such a person, since his morals are inconsistent with Islam. He does not perform prayers and does not abide by Allah's rights. In fact, the one who neglects Allah's right, will be worse in neglecting the rights of human beings. Here, it is sufficient for one who neglects prayer to mention that Jabir Ibn 'Abdullah may Allaah be pleased with him reported that the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said: “The pact between us and them is prayer. Whoever abandons it is a disbeliever.” [Ahmad, Abu Daawood, At-Tirmithi, an-Nasaa'i and Ibn Maajah ]
In addition, such a person drinks wine, which is the mother of all evils. It also leads one to commit many misdeeds.
We ask Allah, The Great and Almighty, to relieve your distress and to save you from the evils of the present life and the torment of the Hereafter.

You have to pray to Allah, The Great and Almighty, to keep company with good and righteous women, since they will help after the Help of Allah to be true to Islam.

We advise you to hold fast to the religion and be steadfast on the right path and goodness. Then, there is no harm if you seek a good husband, but through legitimate means and channels.

Allah knows best.

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