Calling Muslim Girl to Sharee’ah
10-3-2002 | IslamWeb
Question:
My question is as follow. If a Muslim man who is following the Islamic Sharia is attracted by a girl of Muslim background (I mean she is not following the Sharia, but she believes in Allah and Islam, but she is clothing herself as non-Muslims, Mutabarijjah) His love should be in the first place for Allah (SWT) and Rasuel Allah Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) He knows her and he only makes contact with he by mobile or e-mail. Not in romantic way, but about Islam. He tries to let her feel the meanings of Islam. By telling her things about the love for Allah and the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) and so on. And he is even sending her books about the 'Muslim women in a western society' also a simple gift to show his feelings for her. Also he makes Du'a for help from Allah, to let that girl be a Muslim woman by taking her Hijab. She always tell him that she understand what he means. And even once she stood waiting for the bus when a few guys came to her trying to chat with her (because of her look, Muttabarijjah) Then she saw the Muslim man who also was waiting for the bus. Then she felt sorry because he will think that she has more boyfriends. Then she send him an e-mail telling that those boys only try to mess with her. And she told (by e-mail) that she never had a boyfriend. So she felt sorry. All this to be in the possibility for marrying her, Insha Allah. There ages are 22 and 18 years. Is this Muslim man practicing a sin? Or is it better for him to break up this relation (although they never meet in secret)?
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
There is no harm in calling that girl to wear Hijaab and it would be even considered a good act on which you would get reward. The Prophet said: “I swear by Allah! If Allah guides one single man (to Islam) by your efforts, that will be better for you than possessing an abundant number of red camels (a very expensive breed of camels which is considered as the most valuable property in the sight of the Arabs).” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
However, this call should not be directly through talking with her over phone or chatting with her. Satan is very eager to push a human being step by step to an evil and unhappy end. Allah Says (what means): {…and do not follow the footsteps of Satan. Indeed, he is to you a clear enemy.} [Quran 2:168]
Moreover, many forbidden relations start by a sight, then a smile, then a word, then a promise, and, at last, the dating. It is also said that huge flames are always from small sparks.
Yet, you may call her towards adhering to Islam by sending pamphlets, cassettes, and useful booklets. You may also recommend some good Muslim sisters to visit her, exhort her, and teach her the rulings of the Sharee’ah.
You may also advise her to listen to Islamic lectures and take part in women Islamic activities that are conducted by Islamic centers. If she follows the right path, then you may marry her, but your marriage to her after her adherence to the Sharee’ah, surely, helps her to be steadfast in her religion.
Allah knows best.