All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
You should avoid these whispers and thoughts, for they are all illusions that are not true. The basic principle is that all these cleaning detergents are lawful unless you are certain, a certainty upon which you can swear, that they contain something forbidden.
So, just avoid this obsession and do not pay attention to it. This obsession causes you, as well as those around you, hardship.
Using what contains alcohol is permissible if the alcohol has been transformed into a pure substance. Likewise, it is permissible according to those who are of the view that alcohol is pure, which is the view of a group of scholars whose view is permissible to imitate.
Allah Knows best.