Bride stipulates that she works or husband pays her weekly stipend
30-11-2015 | IslamWeb
Question:
Assalaamu alaikum. I have an issue concerning the marriage contract. The sister wants to put the following in the contract: "The wife reserves the right to work outside of the home, and when she is not working, she should be given a 50$ stipend each week." Basically, she is saying that if I do not allow her to work, then she needs some money for things that she would like to do at home, like sewing and making jewelry, because she just does not want to get bored at home. My question is: would this marriage condition be disliked? As muslim men, we are already obliged to give them food, clothing and shelter. Anything else is extra. If I were to agree to this condition, then something that would be optional to give her would now be obligatory. I feel that giving my wife some kind of monthly salary is something that I would already do naturally and that should not be in the contract. What if I happen to fall short in my fiances? I would still be obliged to fulfill my contract. And if I would not do it then that would be a sin on me. This condition is not haram I think, but would it be haraam for me if I were unable to fulfill the contract because a financial issue occured when we are married? Also if the sister has the mindset that if I do not allow her to work then I must pay her, does this mindset not go against the sharia law? Allaah commanded the women to stay at home. So she might have the mindset that in order for her to accept staying at home I must give her a monthly salary. Is this not like some kinds of bribing? And can this way of thinking take one out of the fold of islam? Please help me to resolve this issue so that I can come to peace, Allaah willing. We are supposed to be getting married after Ramadan, Allaah willing. May Allaah reward you.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
The woman is entitled to set the conditions she wishes in the marriage contract as long as these conditions serve her interests and do not contradict the purpose of the marriage contract. If the husband accepts those conditions, he is obliged to abide by them as underlined in fatwa 131714.
There is no doubt that the basic principle is that the Muslim woman should stay in her house and that this is better for her; however, this does not mean that she is legislatively forbidden from going out of her house for work as long as she abides by the relevant conditions and Islamic teachings. The money that she takes from her husband (in the case in question) is not considered a bribe; scholars defined bribes as "Money paid to evade others' rights or support one's false claims (i.e. what a person pays in order to take something he has no right to take or to evade a duty or obligation)."
Committing an act of disbelief that takes the doer out of the fold of Islam is not a simple thing that can be taken that lightly; scholars have listed the acts entailing declaring the doer an apostate. Such acts are serious, such as prostrating oneself to an idol, deliberately throwing the mus-haf in filth and the like.
When the husband is in straitened circumstances and can no longer abide by such a condition stipulated by the wife in the marriage contract, he bears no sin for that; Allaah, The Exalted, says (what means): {Let a man of wealth spend from his wealth, and he whose provision is restricted - let him spend from what Allaah has given him. Allaah does not charge a soul except (according to) what He has given it. Allaah will bring about, after hardship, ease.} [Quran 65:7] This ruling applies as far as the obligatory maintenance is concerned, let alone other than it. However, the husband remains liable to this money and is obliged to pay it to his wife whenever his financial situation gets better; Allaah, The Exalted, says (what means): {And if someone is in hardship, then (let there be) postponement until (a time of) ease. But if you give (from your right as) charity, then it is better for you, if you only knew.} [Quran 2:280]
In any case, you do not have to commit yourself to this condition. If you fear that this may constitute some sort of an obstacle to your marriage, then you can either convince her to give up this condition or consider looking for another wife.
Allaah knows best.