His father openly flirts with the housemaids
28-4-2015 | IslamWeb
Question:
Asslam o Alaikum,My father flirts with my house maids, by saying immoral words etc. to them. In reaction they insult him or if they are not pious they enjoy his remarks and such things keep on going in my house. This has been happening since last many years.I have two young sons and a wife. I fear he is setting a bad example for them and destroying my home atmosphere. Further we are at a risk of any reaction from the families of the maids.Please guide me how should I stop my father from such acts, please note that I have already very humbly tried to persuade him to stop such immoral acts but all in vein.RegardsMunir.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His Slave and Messenger.
It is indeed strange that your father would insolently commit acts that lead to evil as you mentioned. By doing so, he does not show shame before Allaah or before people, especially as he does so in front of you, your wife and sons. A person usually tends to have some shame in such circumstances.
You did well by advising him politely. This is proper for a son to do when his father commits prohibited acts. Please refer to Fatwa 19274. We advise you to continue to advise him and never to despair.
If your father lives with you in the same house, you should know that your wife is entitled to a separate accommodation where she can live free of any potential trouble. She is not obligated to live with your parents or with any one of them as clarified in Fatwa 84608. If you can provide a separate accommodation for your wife and children, this may solve the problem; otherwise, you are advised to consider not having female maids in the house. Please refer to Fataawa 92230 and 1962.
If the two options are not possible, then you and your wife should try to protect your children from his bad influence and you should continue advising your father and implore Allaah to bless him with guidance and help him come back to his senses.
Allaah Knows best.