Facebook may be a cause for marital conflict
10-6-2014 | IslamWeb
Question:
I am a convert to islam. Alhamdulilah my husband is very good. He did a secnd marriage few years back it wasnt sucessful . Then he did the third marriage the lady is good and has two kids from previous marriage. Many years i have never been in contact with my relatives as they didnt want to. But one uncle and his family are in touch and i started to visit them when my kids became 8-10 yrs old i never visited them alone. I have been in contact with my cousin brother on facebook. I was correctting him a indecent post of his and somehow the full chat wasnt posted. Its a public forum. My husband saw it and he says i idid indecency. Itried to explain the situation but he is not ready to listen. I told him yes the post wasnt correct but i was trying to say the same thing.since it wasnt posted completely as a muslim i want to correct them. He has made up mind to extreme steps. This is purely a work of shaytan i dnt blame him for anything. Its my mistake to keep in touch on facebook . I have deleted account. But i dnt know how to recnincile with my husband i have 2kids. I never ever thought of anne in 15years. Please believe me I cnt do anythng.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and messenger.
Firstly, we advise you to resort to two matters which are of great significance: first, you should keep patient, as patience is the optimal source of solace at times when tribulations befall the person. Please refer to Fatwa 83577 on the virtue of patience. Second, we advise you to implore Allaah, humbly and earnestly with an attentive heart, to rectify your relationship with your husband. The hearts of all people are between the two Hands of Allaah and He turns them any way He wills. Please refer to Fataawa 88296 and 83421 on the virtues and merits of supplicating Allaah and the best times and occasions when supplications are likely to be answered.
You may even seek the mediation of righteous family members or friends, to whom you believe your husband would probably listen, if necessary. However, you should make sure that such a step would be beneficial beforehand.
It should be noted that a husband should accept his wife’s apology. The marital bond is too precious to be undermined by (stubbornly) rejecting the other spouse’s apology. Allaah, The Exalted, forgives the wrongdoer if he repents; so, should a human being disdain from doing the same?
Finally, we hope that you have learned a lesson from that incident for your future life. That is, to avoid doubtful matters and anything that may be a means for Satan to cause a Muslim to cause ruin to himself, to others, and to the relationships with his loved ones, as is the case between spouses. Allaah, The Exalted, says (what means): {…and do not follow the footsteps of Satan. Indeed, he is to you a clear enemy.}[Quran 2:280]
For further information, please refer to Fatwa 127913.
Allaah Knows best.