Practicing coitus interruptus without wife’s permission
4-11-2007 | IslamWeb
Question:
Assalam alaykum, You say in some fatwas on your website that azl (ciotus interruptus) could be practiced only with the permission of the wife. I heard from a sheikh that it is not true, since there is no evidence in the sunnah for it and that is only ijtihad. The hadith simply states that the sahaba used to practice azl during the time of the Prophet sas, and he did not object. So that sheikh claims that a husband only should decide when to have children from a wife, not the wife, and that husband can practice azl without wife`s permission. Can you, please, bring me proofs against his claim? Jazakallahu kheiran, wa alaykum asalam
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
There is a narration about the dislikeability of practising coitus interruptus with one’s wife except with her permission; this is narrated by 'Umar 
and reported by Imaam Ahmad 
.
This is also supported by logic and sound reasoning, because a woman is harmed by coitus interruptus, as she is prevented from fully enjoying her husband and prevented from having children whereas she has the right in having children; and the Prophet said: “There should be no harm and no reciprocal harm.” [Ahmad and Ibn Maajah] this is why it is correct to say that her permission should be sought in this regard.
In addition to this, coitus interruptus without her permission contradicts the Commandment of Allaah in treating wives kindly. Allaah Says (what means): {And live with them in kindness.}[Quran 4:19]